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Thank you, Dr. Haider, for taking the time to share this thoughtful and beautiful email. I am deeply grateful for you and your work serving others (your help during the Covid crisis was indispensable for me and my family). I send this with a prayer for God's deep comfort and peace for you and your dear ones in this challenging season.
Bravo! Vey well said and such an important message. I am a therapist and have worked with men in grief for many years. It took me quite some time to realize that men had very different healing paths that most don't see. Sadly, men are expected to be like women these days. Cry and talk. This is off the mark for many reasons. One reason is that testosterone limits a man's emotional tears. There are many other reasons that I have written about. The truth is that men have very beautiful ways to heal from loss. You have outlined your path and it is wonderfully masculine. The men, I found, tended to heal through action. That is, doing something in honor of the person who died. You related numerous ways that you have worked to do things to honor your father and that is a potent healing that many simply can't see. I watched men repeatedly who would improve a part of themselves in honor of those who had died. That's good grief.
And yes, grief is an essential element in human maturity and to our own Spiritual development.
Thank you for this comment, I’ve been so wrapped up in my own experience I didn’t even pause to consider how it might be different for women, but it’s obvious that it would be.
That's understandable. Most people don't think there are any differences. It is tricky since it is not a binary distinction. Some women grieve more like the men and some men grieve more like the women. Lots of grey areas too. A good approach is to find each person's uniqueness and go from there.
Thank you Dr Haider for writing such a profound piece . Everyday for me is a journey and I really can relate to how that growth becomes exponential in the later years once I have become more awake. It’s not easy to fit in with mainstream culture… but sometimes it’s also very peaceful as I can remain detached and watch the show . Working on one’s own weaknesses is not easy and I think it’s easier to look at flaws in others or in systems ( which definitely do exist !!) then to face our own flaws or inadequacies. At least we are awake and willing to work on ourselves and realize the bigger purpose. Thank you for bringing the spiritual side to the practice of medicine, something that has been left convienently out of corporate medicine which has divided the human body into multiple organs and systems and moved away from viewing the body as a whole being . Stay blessed .
Thank you, Dr. Haider, I have immense gratitude for your words of wisdom. I have experienced the blessing of disease, it continues to change my life and provides deep insight into my spiritual journey. Much peace and prayers
So beautifully written. Thank you. My sister passed away a year ago. I feel like you've captured all the stages of grief that I have passed through and the thought processes I've navigated, both prior to her death and after. "We read to know that we are not alone." C. S. Lewis 🙏
I have recently lost both of my parents in the last few years. I can relate to your article in many ways personally. It has also highlighted other aspects for consideration and reflection.
Maybe this, in part, is what my Dad was trying to tell us when we were younger.
“Don’t spend the majority of your time majoring in the minors.”
Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and experiences to help us better understand the world and how it might be impacting us all.
One thing I forgot to mention that you just reminded me of was that the lessons my father tried to impart became much more meaningful and powerful after he passed, even the silent ones like his positive characteristics and ways of being. He was masculine but gentle, as one book once put it a “man of steel and velvet”, very patient and slow to anger, I almost never saw an angry outburst from him.
Our fathers seemed to have very similar traits. I was in my late thirties before I realized that my father was a whole lot smarter and wiser than I was. His sayings that he used to teach us have stuck with me and have served me well. I just wish I would have paid more attention when I was younger, but I am grateful that I finally did.
Thank you for sharing more of your thoughts about your father. It has put a smile on my face today by remembering my own.
Dr. Abram Hoffer was absolutely on his patient's side assisting to heal their severe brain disorder, schizophrenia, by prescribing Vitamin B 3 of which they are "dependent" on.
Each dose is different based on the severity of the problem.
Vitamins B and C are water soluble so, therefore, they leave the body on a daily basis and need to be replenished daily.
The body need nutrients not drugs.
Most will follow the "standard of care" protocol but it is "sick care" for profits and career.
Loved this article like so many you share! Lost my dad in January😢. He was a very special person, miss him terribly, but I know I’ll see him again! And I’m glad his suffering is over.
Thank you, Dr. Haider, for taking the time to share this thoughtful and beautiful email. I am deeply grateful for you and your work serving others (your help during the Covid crisis was indispensable for me and my family). I send this with a prayer for God's deep comfort and peace for you and your dear ones in this challenging season.
Agreee 🙏
A profound heart warming article. I really enjoyed it
Bravo! Vey well said and such an important message. I am a therapist and have worked with men in grief for many years. It took me quite some time to realize that men had very different healing paths that most don't see. Sadly, men are expected to be like women these days. Cry and talk. This is off the mark for many reasons. One reason is that testosterone limits a man's emotional tears. There are many other reasons that I have written about. The truth is that men have very beautiful ways to heal from loss. You have outlined your path and it is wonderfully masculine. The men, I found, tended to heal through action. That is, doing something in honor of the person who died. You related numerous ways that you have worked to do things to honor your father and that is a potent healing that many simply can't see. I watched men repeatedly who would improve a part of themselves in honor of those who had died. That's good grief.
And yes, grief is an essential element in human maturity and to our own Spiritual development.
Thanks for your take on things.
Thank you for this comment, I’ve been so wrapped up in my own experience I didn’t even pause to consider how it might be different for women, but it’s obvious that it would be.
That's understandable. Most people don't think there are any differences. It is tricky since it is not a binary distinction. Some women grieve more like the men and some men grieve more like the women. Lots of grey areas too. A good approach is to find each person's uniqueness and go from there.
Thanks!
It is sad that instead of people fixing their issues they (and Doctors) do everything to control the symptoms.
Thank you Dr Haider for writing such a profound piece . Everyday for me is a journey and I really can relate to how that growth becomes exponential in the later years once I have become more awake. It’s not easy to fit in with mainstream culture… but sometimes it’s also very peaceful as I can remain detached and watch the show . Working on one’s own weaknesses is not easy and I think it’s easier to look at flaws in others or in systems ( which definitely do exist !!) then to face our own flaws or inadequacies. At least we are awake and willing to work on ourselves and realize the bigger purpose. Thank you for bringing the spiritual side to the practice of medicine, something that has been left convienently out of corporate medicine which has divided the human body into multiple organs and systems and moved away from viewing the body as a whole being . Stay blessed .
Thank you, Dr. Haider, I have immense gratitude for your words of wisdom. I have experienced the blessing of disease, it continues to change my life and provides deep insight into my spiritual journey. Much peace and prayers
Thank you for this heartfelt email. Find peace in the love that surrounds you, and know that all is well.
I agree, l also recently lost my father
So beautifully written. Thank you. My sister passed away a year ago. I feel like you've captured all the stages of grief that I have passed through and the thought processes I've navigated, both prior to her death and after. "We read to know that we are not alone." C. S. Lewis 🙏
Sassy
I just wanted to say I am sorry to hear about your sister’s passing. I also appreciate you adding the C.S. Lewis quote.
I think that is why I feel connected to other like minded individuals on Substack. It truly makes me realize I am not really alone at all.
Thank you for sharing that with us all.
Thank you. Cogent and well-timed - precisely what I needed to hear.
God bless you all.
BeautifulBeautifulBeautifulBeautiful!!!!!
Very beautiful, thanks so much for sharing this. May your father's memory be a blessing.
Excellent article !!!
I have recently lost both of my parents in the last few years. I can relate to your article in many ways personally. It has also highlighted other aspects for consideration and reflection.
Maybe this, in part, is what my Dad was trying to tell us when we were younger.
“Don’t spend the majority of your time majoring in the minors.”
Thanks again for sharing your thoughts and experiences to help us better understand the world and how it might be impacting us all.
Well done !!!
One thing I forgot to mention that you just reminded me of was that the lessons my father tried to impart became much more meaningful and powerful after he passed, even the silent ones like his positive characteristics and ways of being. He was masculine but gentle, as one book once put it a “man of steel and velvet”, very patient and slow to anger, I almost never saw an angry outburst from him.
Thank you for your reply.
Our fathers seemed to have very similar traits. I was in my late thirties before I realized that my father was a whole lot smarter and wiser than I was. His sayings that he used to teach us have stuck with me and have served me well. I just wish I would have paid more attention when I was younger, but I am grateful that I finally did.
Thank you for sharing more of your thoughts about your father. It has put a smile on my face today by remembering my own.
Hi!
Great article!
You are a very rare doctor.
How wonderful!
Dr. Abram Hoffer was absolutely on his patient's side assisting to heal their severe brain disorder, schizophrenia, by prescribing Vitamin B 3 of which they are "dependent" on.
Each dose is different based on the severity of the problem.
Vitamins B and C are water soluble so, therefore, they leave the body on a daily basis and need to be replenished daily.
The body need nutrients not drugs.
Most will follow the "standard of care" protocol but it is "sick care" for profits and career.
I past it along to others at www.activatehumanity.com
Thank you!
Lise from Maine (former licensed clinician)
Hi!
Anyone can visit this website for further education.
www.doctoryourself.com
Thank you!
Lise from Maine (former licensed clinician)
Sorry to hear about your father. Prayers for your family! Thank you for sharing your heart through this.
Loved this article like so many you share! Lost my dad in January😢. He was a very special person, miss him terribly, but I know I’ll see him again! And I’m glad his suffering is over.