A Woman's Health May Depend on a Good Man

The deepest root cause of women's illnesses are often found in toxic relationships that deprive them of a sense of security and love. This then manifests in superficial physical "causes."

When the relationship between a husband and wife improves, we often see a corresponding improvement in the wife's serious chronic health issues, such as menstrual problems, infertility, thyroid disease, gallbladder disease, fibroids, polyps, ovarian cysts, mood disorders and more. Even though these chronic health problems all have clear physical bases, primarily rooted in estrogen excess and it’s concomitant effects on various organs, these issues will still often suddenly diminish or even disappear entirely, depending on the depth of healing in the relationship. This healing process typically requires marital counseling from someone with real wisdom, who helps the couple put issues in their proper perspective and set realistic expectations. This collaborative approach has proven essential in healing many women in our practice. As trust is rebuilt and insecurities diminish, we usually witness remarkable improvements in their health. Understanding just what is going on, both emotionally and physically, and why it particularly applies to women, is the topic of this article.

A particularly striking case was that of a patient we’ll call Emily. She had a profound fear of relationships rooted in unresolved childhood traumas. Because of this she suffered debilitating depression, and a lifetime of painful and irregular menstrual cycles.

Her treatment journey commenced with a comprehensive detox targeting chemicals, heavy metals, and aiming to help resolve her hormonal imbalances. This quickly began restoring her physical health. But even as her body started to mend, we turned our attention to the scars left on her mind and emotions, because without addressing those the physical improvements would be tenuous and difficult to sustain, especially when tapering off treatments. So through thoughtful and empathetic conversations, we revisited her past traumas, gently reframing her experiences to loosen their grip on her life.

As Emily healed at these deeper levels, her relationships began to transform. Suspicion towards her mother morphed into understanding and warmth, mending that most important of broken bonds and helping nurture her emotional recovery. Yet, as her body and mind became more fortified, her menstrual cycles suddenly ceased entirely - a puzzling outcome that seemed to contradict her overall healing trajectory. We initially thought this might represent her body's way of conserving still scarce resources, yet intuitively, we knew there was likely a deeper element to it.

The turning point came with a profound personal development: Emily fell in love.

As she planned her future with a man who was not only trustworthy and caring but also emotionally supportive, something miraculous happened. On the very day she finally felt secure enough to accept his marriage proposal, Emily's menstrual cycle resumed, pain-free for the first time in 17 years. It was a transcendent moment too perfectly timed for coincidence and helped underscore for her and for us the profound interconnectedness of a woman’s emotional security and her physical health.

Emily's story doesn’t just relate her own victory over ill-health; it serves as a beacon of hope to other women and a testament to the transformative power of truly integrative therapy that harmonizes body, mind, and spirit. Her journey illustrates the indomitable resilience of the human spirit and the dramatic impact that nurturing the most important relationships can have on a woman’s wellbeing.

Psychosocial Factors

When we consider health, it's common to focus on physical aspects like diet, exercise, and genetics. However, the influence of psychosocial factors - those interwoven elements of social environment and personal psychology - is also profoundly significant, but especially so for women. Recent studies have highlighted how these seemingly fuzzy factors can shape women's health outcomes in many ways.

Mental health, unsurprisingly, is an area where the impact of psychosocial factors is particularly evident. Women are nearly twice as likely as men to experience depression and anxiety disorders. This disparity is a reflection of the unique stressors women face. For example, caregiving responsibilities, which frequently fall more heavily on women, can contribute strongly. Gender-based violence can be a big contributor, living on in the psyche and being reflected in dysfunctional adult relationships even when it’s been forgotten or repressed: in the US, the CDC reports that 25% of girls are sexually abused before the age of 18, compared to less than 8% of boys. There are female specific societal pressures around beauty, success, and proper behavior that can exacerbate matters. Biological factors, such as hormonal fluctuations related to the menstrual cycle, pregnancy, and menopause, also play a role.

The influence of psychosocial factors extends well beyond mental well-being to all aspects of physical health, most notably perhaps to cardiovascular health since heart disease is the leading cause of death among women. Psychosocial stress has been linked to an increased risk of developing cardiovascular conditions. In fact in one study these factors alone accounted for half the incidence of heart disease.

Women may be more vulnerable to the effects of psychosocial stressors on the heart due to differences in stress perception, coping mechanisms and genetic predispositions. Depression, which we saw was twice as prevalent among women, is a major risk factor for heart disease, again illustrating just how intertwined mental and physical health truly are.

In fact all chronic diseases are profoundly affected by psychosocial stressors. Women in particular are more susceptible to autoimmune disorders like rheumatoid arthritis and lupus, conditions that are well known to be particularly influenced by stress. In addition the perception and management of chronic pain, which women report at higher levels, is also influenced by emotional well-being and stress levels.

After all, psychosocial stress directly impacts immune system function, which is the basis of most, if not all disease processes.

Lifestyle choices and health behaviors, often shaped by psychosocial factors, also have a significant impact on women's health. Women are generally more proactive in seeking medical care, yet they may face barriers due to socioeconomic status or cultural norms. High stress levels can lead to unhealthy choices like poor eating habits, decreased physical activity, or increased substance abuse. Conversely, a strong support network can encourage healthier lifestyle choices and provide emotional relief.

Social roles and expectations further highlight the importance of psychosocial factors. Women frequently juggle multiple roles—professional, caregiver, partner—which can lead to increased stress and less time for self-care. Societal expectations to excel in all areas add pressure that can negatively impact both mental and physical health.

Reproductive health presents its own set of psychosocial challenges. Stress can affect pregnancy outcomes, increasing risks of preterm birth and postpartum depression. Access to reproductive health services may be limited by socioeconomic barriers or cultural stigmas, preventing women from receiving necessary care.

Understanding why psychosocial factors may often matter far more for women's health than men’s involves recognizing disparities in emotional investment and biological responses. Women are often genetically primed and then further socialized to be more attuned to emotions, which can make social stressors more impactful. Biological differences, such as hormonal variations that influence development of the female brain in utero as well as later throughout life, influence stress responses and emotional regulation, affecting overall health.

In addition to all the above, female sexual biology itself can become a major source of unremitting physical stress, when it’s sub optimally expressed.

It turns out that simply taking the pill doesn’t quite level the sexual playing field the way feminists were led to believe it did.

Male Sex Partner’s Lingering Effects on Women

It turns out there’s both a profound short term and possibly even a lasting long term physical effect of sex with a particular man on a woman’s body.

When sperm enters a woman’s reproductive organs it induces a significant inflammatory response because it’s a foreign substance (like what happens with organ rejection). Eventually the woman’s immune system does become tolerant to a particular man’s sperm, but it takes quite a bit of sustained effort - like someone becoming tolerant to cat dander after months of visiting an immunologist to get allergy shots (by the way don’t do that, they have neurotoxic aluminum in them. If you already did you can chelate the aluminum with various binders).

Jewanraj, et al described the process in a 2020 review paper:

Initially, the presence of semen in the female reproductive tract results in an inflammatory response involving cytokine production and leukocyte recruitment for the removal of excess and abnormal sperm. 10 , 11 , 20 , 21 The alkaline pH of semen and the microbial content of the ejaculate also contribute to alterations in the vaginal microbiome which are known to promote genital inflammation and HIV risk in women. 4 , 5 , 7 , 23 , 24 , 25 , 26 , 27 , 28 A semen‐induced pro‐inflammatory immune response to prime the female reproductive tract for conception may also promote genital inflammation and HIV acquisition in women. 11 , 20 , 21 , 22

Conversely, semen also contains factors to help regulate this pro‐inflammatory response at the FGT since excessive inflammation may lead to adverse pregnancy outcomes. This results in the induction of a regulatory T‐cell (Treg) immune response for tolerance to the paternal antigens and to facilitate embryo implantation. 16 , 29 , 30 , 31 , 32 A semen‐induced tolerogenic immune response may also inhibit the clearance of HIV and other pathogens at the FGT. Taken together, these studies suggest that semen directly alters the biology of the FGT and may have significant consequences for the risk of HIV infection in women.

If a woman is sexually active with multiple partners it can create a significant burden on her immune system that may lead to full blown disease long term. Pair that with repeated heartbreak and it can simply be too much psychological and physical oxidative stress on the body. In addition there’s the stress of ongoing exposures to different microbiomes as well as the potential impact of acute and especially various subacute STDs, that may go undiagnosed.

Permanent Imprinting?

There's another supposedly disproven theory that women's previous sex partners leave behind permanent DNA traces in their bodies. However it hasn’t actually been disproven, it just hasn't been confirmed, because no ones willing to risk their career on it.

A 2012 study found male DNA (Y chromosomes) in 60% of female brains. It was thought maybe this was due to the well-known phenomenon of “microchimerism” from prior pregnancies with male babies, whereby some of the baby’s cells enter the mothers bloodstream and take up persistent residence throughout her body, where they may even multiply, essentially becoming a permanent part of her.

But a follow up found that 21% of women who had not had male sons, still had unexpected foreign male DNA in their bodies.

It's been argued this could be due to a woman’s own mother’s pregnancy with an older brother leading to the older brother’s DNA entering the body of the woman’s mother, then coming into theirs later while they themselves were gestating in their mother’s womb. All in all, there are various theories put forth for why it's not from prior sex partners, but what if it is? So far no one knows, though it would be easy enough to find out with sequencing studies to match sex partners to the DNA.

Even more interesting though is that whether or not it turns out that actual DNA is left behind, there may still be some kind of imprinting effect that occurs with a woman’s first male sex partner.

A study in flies found "that the size of the young was determined by the size of the first male the mother mated with, rather than the second male that sired the offspring." Of course we’re not flies, but it does beg the question: would we find the same effect in humans? We are unlikely to know the answer definitively any time soon.

But, to quote Time magazine’s politically incorrect response to this controversy: "It’s a long-held belief among animal breeders that pure-bred progeny are best produced by females who have never mated before. Call it puritanical or ridiculous, but in breeding, it’s been a long-standing practice—even though there has never been much science to back it up."

At least not until the fly study.

Now whether or not this applies to humans is still up in the air, but the point in bringing it up was to drive home the importance of psychological imprinting on a male provider figure especially in light of the data showing how for most women their first sex partner is of much greater import than they are for most men. I wouldn’t be surprised if some sort of physical imprinting were possible in human women, but wouldn’t expect it to happen always, and would’t expect it to be entirely dependent on simple physical factors. Meaning if a woman remained emotionally fixated on her first male partner despite moving on to someone else, there might be a noticeable effect on offspring due to that psychological attachment. Again this is highly speculative, but food for thought, and hopefully someday fuel for unbiased research into human attachment and reproduction.

A Psycho-Genetic Inheritance

Throughout human history, women have often viewed their father, and later their significant other, particularly their husband, as their primary source of protection, and provision. This deeply ingrained reliance can be traced back to evolutionarily cemented gender roles, where men were seen as the necessary protectors, safeguarding their families against external threats, while women nurtured and ensured the survival of their offspring. For countless centuries, women trusted and depended on their male providers for their and their children’s physical safety and well-being.

These roles are not merely cultural vestiges that can be easily shed, but deeply rooted in our very biology, with systems like the endocrine glands, the amygdala, insular cortex, and hypothalamus having imprinted these psycho-genetic codes over millennia of human evolution. Various organs and parts of the brain, which regulate emotions, safety responses, and stress, have been shaped by the environments in which humankind lived, leading to a deep, instinctual sense of safety for women living within a loving, protective relationship.

Despite the significant social progress that has made women far more independent, these ancient biological imprints remain. Modern women, whether they’re police officers, CEOs, or commandos, may find themselves subconsciously affected by this evolutionary template.

Indeed, surveys conducted in America from 2007 to 2011 found that 50-70% of American women believed their first sexual partner would be their last and felt deeply betrayed when that partner left them. On the other hand only 25-45% of men felt the same way.

Even in the modern world the absence of a protective, loving male presence can still, at times, activate a sense of insecurity or perceived danger, not due to any real physical threat but due to the subconscious legacy of hundreds of thousands of years of critical survival mechanisms kicking in on autopilot.

This fear or anxiety, often operating beneath conscious awareness, can result in an overactivation of the sympathetic nervous system—the part of the body responsible for the "fight or flight" response. Even if there is no external danger, this ingrained biological programming can manifest as an unexplained anxiety or insecurity, which is difficult to diagnose because its roots are not immediately obvious to most modern providers or their patients.

This phenomenon illustrates the powerful intersection between human biology and evolutionary psychology, where ancient survival mechanisms still influence the emotional and physiological experiences of women in today's modern, often drastically different environment.

Fear is Estrogenic

The world we live in is fundamentally structured around dualities, a concept that is deeply rooted in metaphysical principles. These dualities, such as light and dark, good and evil, male and female, reflect a higher order that governs the universe and shapes our existence. Within this framework of opposites, we find two powerful and complementary emotions: fear and aggression.

Fear was traditionally perceived as a “feminine” trait, while aggression was seen as “masculine”. Correspondingly, since the primary female sex hormone is estrogen, and the primary male sex hormone is testosterone, we might expect these to be linked to those emotions, fear somehow associated with estrogen and aggression with testosterone. It turns out this connection is not just philosophical but is well supported by modern scientific research. Everyone knows testosterone is tied to aggression in both men and women, but few know that there is a strong link between estrogen and fear. In keeping with the opposite and complementary nature of the sexes, unlike testosterone, estrogen is not the cause of fear, but its “cure”. The only problem being that when a cure becomes a necessary staple (because the disease it cures becomes unremitting) it can cause many more problems than it was originally invoked to solve.

Estrogen and the Modulation of Fear

Research has shown a significant link between estrogen levels and the modulation of fear responses. It’s not that estrogen causes fear, but that higher levels of estrogen have been found to play a protective role in regulating fear and anxiety. For instance, one study found that elevated estrogen levels help modulate fear responses and aid in the extinction of fear memories. This means that individuals with higher estrogen levels are less likely to retain fear-related memories, suggesting a calming effect of estrogen on the brain’s fear circuits. Conversely, lower levels of estrogen have been associated with increased fear responses and difficulty in extinguishing these memories. This effect is particularly evident in conditions like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), where women’s fluctuating estrogen levels during the menstrual cycle can influence the severity of PTSD symptoms. When estrogen levels drop, women are more likely to experience heightened fear responses and difficulty overcoming traumatic memories. Another study further supports this idea by demonstrating that fear recall and extinction are influenced by hormonal fluctuations, specifically estradiol, a potent form of estrogen. Women with higher estradiol levels showed reduced fear expression during fear recall tasks, suggesting that estrogen not only helps manage fear but may also offer a protective effect against fear-related conditions. Finally a related study appeared in the Harvard Gazette, whose title adequately conveys its findings: “Estrogen and Female Anxiety: Study Suggests Lower Levels Can Lead to More Mood Disorders”.

Taken together these studies suggest that mood disorders may normally be prevented by naturally elevated estrogen levels in response to chronic insecurity, fear and anxiety.

So the more insecurity, fear and anxiety are present the more estrogen will be required to deal with them - leading those chronically exposed to enter a hyper-estrogenic state, or what has been termed estrogen dominance (referring to relatively high levels compared to progesterone, with which estrogen is usually well balanced).

Modern Societies: Fear Maxing Machines

In today’s western industrialized societies, fear is a pervasive force that influences many aspects of our lives. The media often promotes fear to captivate audiences and sell products, creating a vicious cycle of anxiety and dependency. Fear of financial loss drives people to invest in various insurance products - car, medical, home, travel - often paying for services they rarely use. The medical system preys on fear of life threatening diseases with its screening and vaccine programs. The military industrial complex preys on our fear of geopolitical rivals. Our widely fear-based economy thrives on our insecurity and uncertainty, capitalizing on the lack of traditionally robust social support systems.

In traditional tribal societies, people lived in close-knit communities where the stress of individual survival was mitigated by the strength of the group. Men knew there were many other providers who would step in if they had to step down. Women were surrounded by close relatives who helped them with everything from childcare, to cooking, to cleaning and everything in between. Today, most of us live in fragmented societies, often growing up in single-parent households where economic pressures force parents to leave children in the care of strangers every day. This environment fosters a conscious or subconscious pervasive fear, deeply affecting our psychological and physical well-being.

For women especially, a significant contributor to insecurity and fear may be lack of traditional emotional support from a strong male provider.

Estrogen Dominance - The Quintessential Disease Instigator of Modern Women

Estrogen dominance, the end result of chronic anxiety and deep seated fear, plays a central role in all the common disease processes that affect women in the modern world.

Estrogen dominance thickens the uterine lining, resulting in heavy or prolonged periods, and causes irregular menstrual cycles. It also leads to a negative feedback loop suppressing the hypothalamus and pituitary glands to lower the release of gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH), luteinizing hormone (LH), and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), which leads to improper ovulation and infertility.

Skin issues such as acne can arise from increased oil production due to various estrogen-excess linked hormonal imbalances, and hair loss may also occur.

Elevated estrogen leads to insulin resistance, water retention, altered weight distribution and obesity. Estrogenic weight gain is particularly pronounced around the hips, thighs, and midsection - common “problem areas” for modern women.

Excess estrogen interferes with thyroid function by affecting the availability of thyroid hormones, potentially leading to symptoms and signs of hypothyroidism.

High estrogen levels influence the production and regulation of neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, leading to mood swings, irritability, depression, and anxiety.

Estrogen dominance leads to gallbladder disease by directly increasing cholesterol saturation in bile, decreasing bile acid levels and reducing gallbladder motility, all of which predispose to the formation of gallstones and various complications related to them.

High estrogen levels increase the production of the stress hormone cortisol which can contribute to insomnia and chronic fatigue.

Breast changes are another consequence, with higher estrogen levels causing breast tenderness and swelling. Prolonged exposure to elevated estrogen is linked to an increased risk of developing breast cancer.

Elevated estrogen levels may contribute to the development or enlargement of uterine fibroids, stimulate the growth of endometrial tissue outside the uterus, leading to conditions like endometriosis and stimulate the ovaries, leading to the development of ovarian cysts.

There's also an increased risk of blood clots (thrombosis), especially in women using estrogen therapy or birth control pills, but also theoretically in women who are simply estrogen dominant.

Xenoestrogens

In addition to insecurity and fear increasing the body’s own production of estrogen, women are also exposed to innumerable environmental chemicals with estrogenic effects.

Termed xenoestrogens, these chemicals are found in birth control pills, paper receipts, plastics, pesticides, and many personal care products.

Repeated and prolonged exposures to any of these compounds will disrupt endocrine function and contribute to all the disorders outlined above and others (since their harmful effects extend beyond their pro-estrogenic impact).

Natural Law

We’re all subject to nature. We either accept it or suffer the consequences.

Thus the eons long psycho-genetic programming of women may significantly contribute to hormonal dysregulation and disease whether we like it or not. These imbalances are deeply rooted and difficult to address through external treatments alone, as they are intertwined with fundamental aspects of human biology and evolutionary psychology. For true healing, it is usually essential for a woman's life and worldview to be in alignment with foundational natural principles. A physician cannot merely prescribe medication or therapies for hormonal imbalances without also addressing the underlying lifestyle factors that may be out of sync with nature’s design.

One key principle, many would posit, is that women are naturally predisposed to live a monogamous life. Due to a woman’s inherent vulnerability during a long pregnancy followed by another 2 years of breastfeeding, and then many more years of focused effort required for children to finally become independent, evolutionarily, the vast majority of women historically optimized towards forming deep and singular primary relationship bonds with the fathers of their children.

Because of the mind-body connection and because of the evolutionary pressures involved, women’s health for the most part became more dependent than that of mens on maintaining healthy relationships in their homes and communities. In modern situations where a woman is dating multiple partners in rapid succession her emotional and hormonal systems may become overwhelmed, leading to imbalances and disease. Similarly if a woman’s monogamous relationship is imbalanced and unhealthy it will also throw her hormones and health out of balance.

If a woman seeks to address disease while continuing to engage in polyamory, serial monogamy, or even highly dysfunctional monogamy it may be difficult to achieve true balance and resilient health.

Natural law is often unforgiving, and breaking it can have severe consequences. Therefore, treating women’s diseases and the underlying hormonal dysregulation that characterizes them requires a holistic approach that respects evolutionary psychology and therefore not only involves traditional medical interventions but also addresses a woman’s relationships or lack of them, especially with the primary male provider in her life.

The Upshot

Women's health is deeply linked to how protected and loved (by the primary men in their lives) they feel. Insecurity, lack of love, and harshness are often the root cause issues that drive many of their diseases. 

This doesn't mean the diseases don't have physical causes as well, just that those physical causes are more superficial. 

It all begins with emotional trauma - some mixture of lack of emotional nourishment and excess of emotional toxicity - which drains the associated physical organs (like the uterus and ovaries) of vitality, which means they come to harbor toxins and pathogens, which means they burn through their resources trying to fight off the onslaught and become nutrient deficient. Later other organs that are closely interconnected with them (like the adrenals, thyroid, gallbladder, etc) also become stressed since the natural functioning of the reproductive organs helps support their own functioning. One by one they fall like dominoes. 

You can treat the resulting diseases at a superficial level with dietary changes, supplementation and physical detox, but to really cure them, regain resiliency and allow lifestyle to normalize again in the absence of medical interventions, you have to go much deeper. 

The usual suspects are the primary male protectors and providers depending on stage of life: for a girl it's her father, for a mature woman, it's her husband and for a widow it may be her sons, if she has any. 

Even the best of men don’t often appreciate just how much support the women in their lives require. Just like we need to eat every day, women need to feel loved every day. They will often naturally come looking for it, inviting its expression in any number of ways, unless they’ve been rebuffed so many times that they’ve given up.

This is not to say a woman can't be healthy on her own, of course she can. What this means is that it's just a lot easier within that traditional loving environment, when male providers and protectors serve their function properly.

Women in toxic relationships can't force the men in their lives to give them what they need, but there is a soft power women can learn to use that often gets them what they want indirectly. Many men can be influenced to act like real men (men of “steel and velvet” as author Aubrey Andelin put it), when a woman acts like a real woman - serving her man and respecting him (everyone, including men must serve, just in different ways, i.e. men also serve women).  And even if it does prove impossible to influence the involved man to provide what’s necessary, deep healing is still possible, it just takes more work. Looping in a skilled healer who counsels both the involved woman and her man can be invaluable.

But why should women be women? Can't they be men, or at least like men? 

Women can surely do anything men can do, but there's always a tradeoff. If they constantly manifest masculine traits they will necessarily become more masculine and less feminine and this itself can create physical strain and disease. 

Acceptance of self is important for realization of the self, which is what disease is really pushing us towards. If women accept their inherent femininity they usually find deep healing a lot easier to attain.

In Summary

Disease is a message that there’s something out of balance within you. At first the message is subtle, but the more it’s ignored the louder and more obnoxious it becomes. Eventually your own self is screaming at you with a loudspeaker to get you to realize you’re in the equivalent of a burning building and your life is endangered.

Regaining health is ultimately about knowing yourself deeply. A big part of knowing yourself is understanding how your sex shapes not only your body, but your psyche and how the two are interrelated and interdependent.

Men and women are obviously different. Both sexes depend on each other in different ways. Throughout 99% of our evolutionary history we’ve overwhelmingly adopted certain roles that were shaped by our biology and which further reinforced that biology, imprinting it in the functioning of various organs, including the brain. Men and women can switch roles, but may find there are unforeseen side effects to doing so.

Over 10s of thousands of years the survival of human societies depended on individual humans collectively fulfilling their assigned gender roles. Those who were good at it survived and those who were not perished, sometimes leading to the destruction of their entire tribes. Groups that were successful eventually led to us modern humans, and we are all still deeply imprinted by our eons-deep genetic legacies.

Women were historically dependent on men for care and protection, which freed them up to create the social glue that bound together their own nuclear families and broader communities. Because of this, interpersonal relationships became either their greatest source of emotional nourishment or their primary source of psychic stress. Since emotions have such a strong effect on physical health, women’s physical health usually depends on the health of their interpersonal relationships and the primary relationship that provides a sense of deep stability and security is that of the male provider - first their father and then their husband. If that relationship is missing or deficient it removes a necessary reference point, and may leave them subconsciously ungrounded and chronically insecure, anxious, and fearful.

The importance of relationships to the physical being of women is reflected in the tendency of women to absorb cells from their offspring while they’re in the womb. These cells contain some of the fathers DNA and can migrate into women’s bodies and continue to live and multiply therein, a phenomenon known as micochimerism. Research suggests this may happen with the DNA of male sex partners even if they don’t get a woman pregnant. And a study in flies suggests that females of that species imprint on their first sex partner and their subsequent offspring from other sex partners retain characteristics of that first partner - again highlighting the deep impact a male can have on a female, though whether this applies to other species including humans is unknown. What is known is that multiple sex partners lead to a serial inflammatory state in the reproductive organs due to the effects of their immunologically unrecognized sperm, which along with possible repeated heartbreak can significantly contribute to the genesis of ill-health in women. All the emotional and physical stressors a woman is exposed to increase estrogen levels to compensate, which leads to many downstream physiological effects characterized by the myriad common health issues women face in the modern world, including menstrual disorders, skin problems, overweight and obesity, infertility, thyroid disease, gallbladder disease, mood disorders and more.

Reversing these problems means understanding their deepest root causes. The problems are not simply physical, their actual sources are usually psychological, though they almost always do develop intermediate physical “causes,” that may be amenable to superficial treatments, at least in the short to medium term. If it is an estrogen excess, you can’t just remove xenoestrogens, because the body makes too much of its own estrogen. You can’t just take more progesterone to balance the estrogen, because that will cause its own negative feedback problems, while leaving the estrogen levels elevated. The original source of the excess estrogen needs to be addressed. That means either accepting what the subconscious demands in terms of healthy relationships, or doing the harder psychological and spiritual work of engendering a feeling of safety and security within, despite any genetically suboptimal circumstances that perhaps can’t be controlled.

In any case the ultimate takeaway is that real healing is always within reach of those who are willing to pay its price, whether they be men or women.